Finding sanctuary at home: The importance of a calming space for first responders
Here are some easy tips for building a personal oasis at home where you can decompress, recharge and sustain your mental well-being.
Originally featured on POLICE1 May 14, 2025 05:35 PM
As a first responder, I know firsthand the importance of having a safe and calming place to come home to after a long and often emotionally draining day. Our work exposes us to some of the most difficult situations humanity has to offer, and we must have a space where we can process our experiences and recharge our emotional batteries. I want to share the reasons why your home should be your sanctuary, some tips for creating a calming environment, and how to seek help when a particularly challenging call won’t seem to fade away.
Why your home should be your sanctuary
First responders face stressful situations daily. These events can take a toll on our mental and emotional well-being, making it vital to have a space where we can feel safe, decompress and process our experiences. Creating a calming environment at home can help us manage the darkness of our work and maintain our overall well-being.
Here are some ideas on how to create a calming and safe space at home:
Designate a relaxation area: Choose a room or corner of your home that is dedicated solely to relaxation. This space should be free of distractions and work-related items. Fill it with things that bring you joy and comfort, such as soft blankets, soothing scents and calming colors. Whatever you call it, man cave, she shed or book nook, just give yourself the gift of a YOU space! Sometimes you will have to be creative to find a space but do it. I love to read but had no room for all my books. We built bookcases in our dining room and now it’s my favorite place to hang out if I am not outside.
Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness practices, such as meditation or yoga, can help first responders process the day’s events and foster mental clarity. Set aside time each day to practice mindfulness. You don’t have to sit cross-legged and chant. Mindfulness can happen on a walk, while lifting weights at the gym, or in the shower. Taking the time for yourself to unravel your day is mindfulness!
Disconnect: After a long day, it’s important to disconnect from your work. Turn off your phone, avoid checking work-related messages, and focus on activities that allow you to unwind and be present in the moment.
Maintain a healthy sleep routine: Yes, I can hear all my fellow night-shift cops laughing! Sleep is essential for maintaining mental and physical health. Ensure your bedroom is a calming, quiet space that promotes restful sleep. Invest in comfortable bedding and consider using blackout curtains or a white noise machine.
Surround yourself with greenery: Incorporating plants into your living space can have a calming effect and help purify the air. Consider adding a few low-maintenance plants to your relaxation area or throughout your home. Try gardening I promise the first tomato you grow will have you hooked!
Engage in calming hobbies: Find activities that help you unwind and relieve stress, such as reading, painting, or gardening. Engaging in a hobby can provide a sense of accomplishment and help you shift focus from work-related stress. Before incorporating some new hobbies, I was a shower beer, “Call of Duty” sort of girl. There is nothing wrong with that but the key to everything is moderation. Now I keep chickens. They are fun to watch, and we get eggs … BONUS!
